We know what we want, but we also know what we don't want anymore.
We've pruned away the hollow relationships, the over-bright beginnings, the déjà vu scenarios: we think of ourselves as clear, stable, aligned.
But there's this silence that returns, this distance that settles in, this solitude that's getting thinner and thinner.
And this question arises, without pity: have we closed the door to the link by dint of lucidity? The clearer you see, the more distant others become, like a gradual shift. A kind of emptiness around you, caused by an excess of emotional awareness.
We're no longer looking to seduce: we're looking to see and be seen, really.
But as awareness sharpens, the link becomes rarer. The further you go inward, the smaller the circle becomes: superficial discussions exhaust you, role-playing tenses you, transparent masks irritate you. We no longer believe in the games, we no longer play the roles, and in this new silence, a fear rises: is lucidity incompatible with connection? Have we unlearned to love by dint of lucidity?
1. Lucidity dissolves illusion, and with it, momentum.
Recognizing emotional traps, sensing subtle manipulations, sniffing out overly confident egos,
To identify in a few words what will go nowhere, what is repeating a loop we've already seen,
Avoid false starts, hollow dynamics, and brilliant but ungrounded connections.,
All this protects, clarifies, refocuses; and yet, nothing penetrates, nothing surprises, nothing really lights up.
The sorting is perfect, the space is empty.
2. Analysis crowds out disorder, while bonding is born of it
We are no longer looking for a living being, we are waiting for a theoretical alignment, a set of clear signs, a perfect symmetry, a seamless fluidity.
Everything has been scrutinized, everything has been decoded too quickly.
Fire, however, arises elsewhere, where the mind does not anticipate: where something slips, reveals itself, takes shape without explanation.
This disturbing, elusive disorder…
He's the one who lit the link, he's the one who was evacuated.
3. Desire cannot be controlled, it must be provoked
A singular voice, an unsteady gaze, a visible flaw,
A gesture devoid of logic, a raw intensity,
This is what reignites the skin, the nerves, the memory of absence.,
And yet, that part no longer passes the test.,
She doesn't have the right timing, the right syntax, the right internal rhythm.,
Those who see everything become impervious.,
Not out of coldness, nor out of excessive lucidity, nor out of an overload of warnings,
Fire demands emptiness, they leave no opening.
Conclusion
Those who see clearly have not lost the need to love.,
They deactivated the levers that open the link.,
They expect a flawless encounter, a seamless and unwavering connection.,
The deep link does not support this logic.,
It cannot be controlled, it does not activate under certain conditions.,
It requires risk, exposure, an opening.
It is in this flaw that everything begins again,
Even for those who are clear-sighted, it still remains to be seen whether we choose it.
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