First date: the questions that scare off a brilliant woman

That's how it starts:

• You're having a little fun on Tinder,
• He refreshes himself at the bar,
• Or you can cool off in the pool…

We're enjoying our days off, and finally… things are starting to take on a new reality…

Between swiping through two profiles, or two sips of beer, or two invigorating dives, you've invited this pretty brunette, still a stranger, to explore things further with a face-to-face date! It's the perfect opportunity to quickly gauge whether the charm is working and if there's potential for a romantic connection.

Bravo! This light-hearted, exciting tête-à-tête could be the starting point for your next romance!

• If there's potential, you'll be able to get a little more involved in this story.
• Or if no feeling arises, you can simply move on to something else that excites you more…

In this article, we're revisiting the classics: There's no such thing as a "bad question" per se; you can talk about anything and everything… it all depends on your expectations and your temperament! And you'll have the time to reveal all your subtleties if there's a crush! The person opposite doesn't know you yet, so perhaps let a little mystery linger, but ABOVE ALL, since you don't know them yet, it's important to to respect their privacy, as well as their values, beliefs, or convictions… it is above all out of respect, kindness and open-mindedness that certain «slippery» subjects are perhaps best avoided (unless you are a master of political acrobatics or a bit provocative?!)

Here are 5 examples of tricky topics to bring up on a first date with a woman. Sensitive topics will vary from person to person; some "tricky" topics are perhaps best avoided (unless you're a master of subtlety or a bit provocative!), but if you want to bring them up, nothing prevents you from doing so; on the contrary, if it's important, it might be best to discuss it on the first date, with tact and kindness.

1. "Why are you still single?"«

Why avoid this question?

While you might be curious to know why he's single, this question could make your date uncomfortable. It might seem intrusive or give the impression that you're trying to find a hidden flaw.

Alternative

Ask questions about his interests, passions and hobbies. This will open up the discussion in a more positive and relaxed way.

I love this question! And I can ask it (NB: asking these kinds of questions is also my job), but always remember that depending on the context, the circumstances, and the form the question takes, the same question can have a different impact… communication is an art practiced with a balance of control and spontaneity.…

2. "How many relationships have you had before?"«

Why avoid this question?

Talking about past relationships can be tricky, especially on a first date. It can feel too intrusive and put unnecessary pressure on the encounter.

Alternative

Talk about what you're currently passionate about or the positive experiences you've had. Focus on the present and what you enjoy in life.

Honestly, do you really want to know?… On one hand, you dream of being the one and only who will give her a rollercoaster of emotions, and on the other hand, you want a real vixen who will introduce you to the entire Kama Sutra?! So, in any case, there won't be a right answer; it wouldn't just be a question to feed an ego and position oneself on a performance scale… perhaps typically macho, wouldn't you say?!

3. "How old are you?"«

Why avoid this question?

While age might seem like innocent information, some women can be sensitive about it. Asking this question on a first date can feel intrusive.

Alternative

If the topic of age is really on your mind, wait for it to come up naturally in conversation. In the meantime, talk about your interests and what you enjoy doing.

Again… do you really want to know?… On the one hand, you claim that age doesn't matter, that it's primarily a state of mind, and that physical fitness is essential… but secretly, you find it unthinkable to date a woman older than you or the same age, or even insist on a minimum of five years younger?! So, it's not too late to rethink your beliefs… yes, women often take better care of themselves than men (they don't have much choice, as a woman's body is more biologically demanding and subject to more societal pressure) and they also live longer. So the truth, gentlemen, is that even if you take care of yourselves, you'll often be less spry than your younger counterpart, who will be ten years younger. Your only advantage in terms of age will probably be your bank balance! So, be realistic and revise your expectations or embrace your true strengths.

4. "What do you do for a living?"«

Why avoid this question?

Although this is a common question, it can sometimes seem a little too formal or impersonal, especially if asked too early or mechanically.

Alternative

Ask more specific and engaging questions about their passions and interests. For example, "What's the most interesting thing you've learned recently?" or "What are you most passionate about in life?"«

5. "Are you looking for something serious?"«

Why avoid this question?

Asking this question on the first date can put unnecessary pressure on your date and scare them off. It can give the impression that you're trying to define the relationship immediately, which might be premature.

Alternative

Talk about your expectations in general, without focusing directly on your date. Say something like, "I enjoy meeting new people and seeing where things lead." This opens the door to a more natural discussion about your intentions without putting any pressure on you.

Conclusion

A first date is an opportunity to create a positive first impression and lay the foundations for a potential relationship. By avoiding these five sensitive questions, you increase your chances of having a good time and of

Make your date want to see you again. Remember, the key is to stay relaxed, show genuine interest in the other person, and leave deeper, more personal conversations for future dates. Good luck!

Also read: Truths man

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