Brilliant women: admiration or unconscious fear in men?

You want her whole, free, intense, unique. You want a woman who inspires you, who uplifts you, who impresses you.
But have you ever looked at what it really takes… to love someone like her?

1. This Woman: she awakens your greatness, and also your vertigo

You admire her, that's undeniable. She unsettles you just by existing.
It makes you feel bigger, more alive.
And in that state of mind, you believe you want the relationship.
But what you really want, sometimes, is just that feeling of elevation.

Because at the precise moment she opens her heart, something inside you diminishes.
You back away, without explaining why: You feel too much, too fast.
Like a child with a present: excited to unwrap the package, and after a few moments the object of your fantasies is put away in a drawer.
You want to receive, but not all at once; when wonder opens up towards construction, this immensity frightens you…?

You desire her because she surpasses you somewhat.
But as soon as she really gets close to you, you run away… what if it was originally a fear of not being good enough?

2. It's not her you want: it's the effect she has on you.

You make promises quickly, you speak loudly, you give your all.
And you believe that this generosity proves your commitment, you yourself are convinced of it.
But what you are proposing is theatrical: an overly grand gesture, an intensity that masks the absence of structure.

You want it… for the adrenaline, for what you feel because of it.
But not always for what she is: She opens up, she offers, she believes in it.
You float, you get carried away, then you disappear.

You never learned to maintain intensity without dissolving into it.
And your silence, after the promises, hurts more than any clear rejection.

3. You run away as soon as she approaches

She? She exposes herself, she trembles, she says what she doesn't say to anyone.
And you, you pick up the phone: You don't want to hurt her, you don't want to lie.
So you do what you believe to be noble: you walk away.

But that departure is not a courageous choice: It's an evasion (a cowardly gesture)
You think you're avoiding a conflict, but you're leaving a void.

You disappear because you don't know what to do with a woman who is so passionate.
You attracted her with your light, you lose her by running away.
And what you call respect, she interprets as abandonment.

CONCLUSION

You say you want a brilliant woman, but you haven't yet chosen to learn how to truly meet her.
Because the real question isn't: do you love her? or are you chasing the trophy?
It's: are you ready to stay when she becomes human, vibrant, whole… without embellishment…

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