Love? That's what's missing, not in the absolute: in the flesh, in the rightness.
The fantasy was refined, the dreams unraveled, but the reality didn't follow.
So a question arises: does what we want really exist… or have we created an impossible demand for ourselves?
We're looking for a bond that wakes us up, that lifts us up, that holds us up without running away. So, when faced with this desire, answers are few and far between, and sometimes elusive.
So we ask ourselves: are we expecting too much... or has the world grown accustomed to lukewarmness?
1. The desire for exception is not a whim
We're not looking for a box to tick: we're looking for a link that resonates.
It is not the ego that demands alignment: it is the soul, the body, the heart.
An inner fire that rejects lukewarmness, that recognizes what sounds hollow.
Those who want “too much” have often been those who have given without counting the cost.
And what they are asking for today is not a luxury: it is emotional justice.
A level of connection that respects what they've become.
What we want is a love that is truly felt, not a distraction.
A gaze that sees us entirely: a presence that does not disappear as soon as we take up space.
This desire is not excessive: it is demanding.
And this requirement comes from a journey, not a whim.
We know what we don't want anymore.
And what we call “too much” is often the bare minimum… seen from an underperforming emotional world.
2. What we project onto love can become an invisible leak
Asking for a connection that is aligned, embodied, vibrant, is already an act of sorting.
We don't want any more, we don't want any more The same.
Flawed dynamics, worn-out roles, unilateral sacrifices: no.
We are not asking for the impossible, we are demanding an end to compromises that cause harm.
It's not a mountain of criteria, simply an internal consistency.
The one that charges love with fixing everything, revealing everything, justifying everything.
We hope that the other person will come to fill the void, restore self-esteem, and clarify meaning.
And without realizing it, we turn love into a sanctuary of compensation.
It's not the connection that's tiring.
That's what we expect from him.
When the dream exceeds the reality of the possible relationship, disappointment becomes inevitable.
3. What you want must be backed up by what you're willing to give
We were judged to be "too sensitive", "too intense", "too demanding".
But it is precisely this intensity that protects against giving up.
This is not a flaw, it is a rare strength.
The link is not an adjustment: it's a magical encounter.
And those who make this demand must not abandon it, they must embody it.
Because she's calling exactly what she deserves.
We demand a link to the truth.
But are we capable of inhabiting it?
To remain present when the other person does not correspond to the idealized image?
How to contain complexity without running away?
To meet our expectations without imposing them?
The love we call upon requires a solid inner posture: it is an ideology of "perfection", in reality it is about being "grounded".
Otherwise, the requirement becomes a wall, and everything that could have been born breaks before it exists.
4. It's not the measurement of demand that counts, but its accuracy
The question is not: “Is it too much?”
The real question is: “Is this right for me, today?”
An aligned desire for love can't be excused, it has to be worked on: refined, purified, assumed.
One can want something grand without fleeing the ordinary.
We can hope for a rare vibration without despising the slowness of reality.
It is in this in-between space that the link can emerge, and this without performance, without symbolic inflation.
Conclusion
We don't ask too much of love: we simply expect it to respond to who we have become.
What needs to be checked is not the size of the wait,
but the alignment between what we hope for… and what we embody.
Love is not a due, nor a dream to be laid on the other: it's a space to be inhabited together, with density, with freedom, with truth.
The real question is not: “Am I being too demanding?”
But: “How long am I going to pretend I want less?”
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