{"id":32119,"date":"2025-04-12T11:58:45","date_gmt":"2025-04-12T09:58:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/?p=32119"},"modified":"2026-07-17T12:15:07","modified_gmt":"2026-07-17T10:15:07","slug":"fantasmes-hommes-puissants","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/fantasmes-hommes-puissants\/","title":{"rendered":"The 3 women: the myth that fascinates (and traps) powerful men"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We often hear it, especially in Italy, but also elsewhere:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<blockquote class=\"is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cThe man <em>truly manly<\/em> would have three wives.\u201d<br \/>One for the house.<br \/>One for intensity.<br \/>One for sexual fantasies.<\/p>\r\n<\/blockquote>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It's almost poetic. Like a Greek tragedy with WhatsApp.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Except that it&#039;s not a myth.<br \/>That&#039;s a fact.<br \/>Not legal. Not official.<br \/>But firmly rooted. Intimately. Socially. Culturally. But very much alive. Silent. Organized. <em>Accepted<\/em> \u2014 sometimes even applauded between two glasses of prosecco.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"\">\r\n<div class=\"\">\r\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"A Powerful Man Has 3 Wives: Fantasy or Reality?\" width=\"1080\" height=\"608\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/hVpTkNzApII?feature=oembed&#038;enablejsapi=1&#038;origin=https:\/\/evol-love.com\"  allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. The Myth of the Three Women: Defining an Emotional Pattern\u00a0<\/h3>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In certain masculine spheres \u2014 particularly those of the <strong>power, prestige or performance<\/strong> \u2014 a pattern that is as old as it is still very much alive is circulating:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<blockquote class=\"is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The &quot;accomplished&quot; man, often between 35 and 60 years old, would be <strong>naturally drawn towards a form of relational triptych<\/strong> :<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li><strong>A leading woman<\/strong> : legitimate partner, often wife or equivalent. Stability, loyalty, social recognition.<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li><strong>A second woman<\/strong> : a more intense, passionate, vibrant relationship, but kept away from the official world.<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li><strong>One or more women passing through<\/strong> : emotional or sexual bonuses, without commitment or friction.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/blockquote>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Nothing is written, but <strong>Everything is organized.<\/strong><br \/>A fragile but functional balance \u2014 as long as no one speaks too loudly.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr class=\"\" \/>\r\n\r\n\r\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. An avoidance strategy disguised as freedom<\/h3>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This model is not just a fantasy etched in the collective unconscious. <br \/>It&#039;s a <strong>emotional regulation system<\/strong><br \/>\u2192 particularly active among men of status, educated, socially valued.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Executives, senior managers, entrepreneurs, renowned artists, doctors, politicians, premium consultants, investors, business lawyers\u2026<\/strong><br \/>Many people activate this pattern, consciously or unconsciously.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For what ?<br \/>Because :<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li>One woman alone is not enough to cover <strong>all facets<\/strong> of their shifting identity (between public image, private impulses and dream of emotional absoluteness).<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>They learned to <strong>to promote relationship optimization<\/strong> as much as that of their business.<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>They operate on the idea that <strong>Emotional vulnerability is a reputational risk.<\/strong><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So they compartmentalize.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Benefits<\/strong>:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li>Printing <strong>Freedom<\/strong>, although it <strong>illusory<\/strong>,<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>Printing <strong>Success<\/strong>, The number of partners actually hides a <strong>lack<\/strong> Deep Links (Quantity vs. Quality)<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>Printing <strong>Power<\/strong>, Masculine Ego for <strong>to reassure<\/strong> his Virility<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>Feeling of <strong>Value<\/strong> superior, being number 1 for different people, which translates into a <strong>Fear<\/strong> of the Commitment<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>Feeling of being a <strong>Rebel<\/strong>, reveals an unconscious need for transgression and excitement, by living a <strong>double games<\/strong><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2192 As in a <strong>Asset portfolio: a little stability, a little growth, a little controlled volatility<\/strong>.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr class=\"\" \/>\r\n\r\n\r\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. What the studies say (when they dare to look)<\/h3>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Official figures tell us little \u2014 because this phenomenon is <strong>socially concealed, not statistically documented.<\/strong><br \/>But some data illustrate the scale of the problem:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li>According to an IFOP study (2021), <strong>46% of men in relationships report having been unfaithful.<\/strong><\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>In upper-middle-class circles in Paris, Switzerland, or London, <strong>Dating apps are often used not to find a primary relationship, but to fuel the \u201cgrey area\u201d.\u201d<\/strong> \u2014 that between fantasy and outlet.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In certain private male networks (entrepreneur clubs, business circles, confidential Telegram groups), discussions frequently revolve around :<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li>\u00ab&quot;The second one who truly understands what I&#039;m going through.&quot;\u00bb<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>\u00ab&quot;The fun I see between two long-haul flights.&quot;\u00bb<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>\u00ab&quot;The main one, with whom I maintain an impeccable image.&quot;\u00bb<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is not marginal. It is <strong>the affective &quot;soft power&quot; of the accomplished masculine<\/strong>\u00ab\u00a0\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr class=\"\" \/>\r\n\r\n\r\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. The pattern has changed: more discreet, more intellectual, more elusive<\/h3>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The myth has not collapsed.<br \/>It has evolved.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Today :<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li>It's not necessarily a triple life in the logistical sense.<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>This is often <strong>a triple relational dynamic, subtly distributed in time and space<\/strong>.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Concrete examples:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li>A man in a stable relationship, but who maintains <strong>For the past three years, I&#039;ve had an emotional correspondence with an expatriate colleague.<\/strong>. \u201cWe\u2019re not doing anything wrong. But she feeds me like no one else.\u201d<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>Another who sees a therapist... with whom he talks about his girlfriend, while he sleeps with his ex \"when it gets too much\".<\/li>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<li>A third explains to his official partner that he \"needs sexual freedom to remain emotionally faithful\".<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The fragmentation is no longer geographical.<br \/>She is <strong>affective, narrative, intellectual.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And everyone thinks they&#039;ve found the balance.<br \/>But everyone stays <strong>in a form of half-relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr class=\"\" \/>\r\n\r\n\r\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Summary: cultural myth or contemporary reality?<\/h3>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<blockquote class=\"is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Verdict: It&#039;s a myth because it has existed for X generations, it&#039;s a fantasy of masculine power, and it&#039;s a reality for certain circles or personality types. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n<\/blockquote>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is not a folkloric relic from the South or a fantasy from an Italian film.<br \/>It is <strong>an integrated psychosexual model, commonplace in circles with high social capital.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>The more power there is, the more refined the scheme becomes.<\/strong><br \/>The more educated a person is, the more the fragmentation is argued.<br \/>And the older he gets\u2026 the more skilled he becomes at <em>justifying what he doesn&#039;t want to face<\/em>.\r\n\r\n<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Also read: <a href=\"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/solitude-homme-puissant\/\">Solitude of a powerful man<\/a><br \/>To discover: <a href=\"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/sommet-irresistible\/ed-2026\/\">Irresistible Summit 2026<\/a><\/p>\r\n<p><strong>Did what you just read resonate with you?<\/strong><br \/>There will be no perfect moment, there is now<br \/>\ud83d\udc49 <a href=\"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/declic-relationnel\/\">The Turning Point<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What if it wasn't your demands that were holding your love life back, but the stereotypes you're carrying around without realizing it? The real challenge isn't seduction, it's daring to create a relationship that reflects who you are and what you've become.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":32153,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[612,614,613,269,484],"class_list":["post-32119","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-homme-haut-potentiel","tag-archetype-feminin","tag-desir-inconscient","tag-idealisation","tag-polarite","tag-projection-amoureuse"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32119","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32119"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32119\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":34378,"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32119\/revisions\/34378"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/32153"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32119"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32119"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/evol-love.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32119"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}