Prince Charming makes you lose 10 years \u2014 and he knows how to make you lose them twice.<\/p>\n
To the one who is still waiting for him: 10 years of excluding real men in the name of a script written by others.<\/p>\n
To the one who no longer expects anything: 10 years concluding that "men don't know how to love" \u2014 the same story, read backwards.<\/p>\n
The two interpretations clash everywhere, and they come from the same book: in both, it is the scenario that decides.<\/p>\n
I grew up surrounded by women who built everything on their own \u2014 mothers, grandmothers, friends who relied only on themselves, or on other women.<\/p>\n
For a long time, I considered Prince Charming for what he is: a tale that is put in cradles, and that shapes better than any school.<\/p>\n
I wasn't wrong about the story \u2014 I was wrong about the conclusion.<\/p>\n
The scenario demands an arrival: a man who appears, who guesses, who saves.<\/p>\n
Each real man is then compared to a character \u2014 and a character always wins, he was written for that.<\/p>\n
The reckoning for this exit is coming late: solid men sidelined for an off-script detail, years spent checking that no one is compliant.<\/p>\n
Disappointment has delivered its verdict: men cannot succeed, hope is naive, autonomy will suffice.<\/p>\n
This exit has the elegance of lucidity \u2014 it has above all the trappings of it: to conclude that nothing exists because a tale has lied is still to let the tale write the ending.<\/p>\n
Prince Charming has been relegated to the realm of fairy tales, but the impulse remains: to believe that an encounter can change everything, without deluding ourselves.<\/p>\n
Hope, yes \u2014 but with eyes open, and that's where everything is at stake.<\/p>\n
Momentum without a script changes everything it touches.<\/p>\n
We stop waiting for an arrival \u2014 we organize presences.<\/p>\n
We stop comparing to a character \u2014 we read about behaviors.<\/p>\n
We stop drawing conclusions about all men \u2014 we choose from among the real ones.<\/p>\n
Hope stands on its own \u2014 it was the imposed casting that had to fall.<\/p>\n
A real man doesn't just gallop in \u2014 he arrives on a Tuesday, four minutes late, with a whole day's worth of baggage, and a conversation that lasts until closing time.<\/p>\n
The story would never have written this scene \u2014 that's exactly how we recognize it.<\/p>\n
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